People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then without any wrong-doing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring this relationship to an end. Sometimes the ending is created by death. Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelieveable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Any thoughts?
Tuesday, July 24, 2007
Thursday, June 28, 2007
Would anyone like a cookie?
A young lady was waiting for her flight in the boarding area of a large airport.
As she would need to wait for many hours, she decided to buy a book to spend her time. She also bought a packet of cookies.
She sat down in an armchair, in the VIP room of the airport, to rest and read in peace.
Beside her chair where the packet of cookies lay, a man sat down in the next seat, opened his magazine and started reading.
When she took out her first cookie, the man took one also. She felt irritated, but said nothing. She just thought “What a nerve! If I was in the mood I would punch him for daring!”
For each cookie she took, the man took one too.
This was really starting to infuriate her, but she didn’t want to cause a scene.
When only one cookie remained, she thought “Ah……what will this abusive man do now?” Then the man, taking the last cookie, divided it into half and gave her one of the halves.
Ah! That was too much to bear!
She was much too angry now.
In a huff she took her book, her things and stormed to the boarding area of the airport.
When she sat down in her seat inside the plane, she looked into her bag to take her glasses, and to her surprise (or dismay?) her packet of cookies were there, untouched and unopened!
She felt so ashamed! She realized the error of her ways. She had forgotten that her cookies were in her purse.
The man had divided his cookies with her without feeling angry or bitter
…….while she had been very angry thinking that she was dividing her cookies with him. And now there was no chance to explain herself……..nor to apologise.
Remember, there are 4 things you can never recover:
The stone
…after the throw
The word
….after it is said!
The occasion
….after the loss!
The time
…after it’s gone!
As she would need to wait for many hours, she decided to buy a book to spend her time. She also bought a packet of cookies.
She sat down in an armchair, in the VIP room of the airport, to rest and read in peace.
Beside her chair where the packet of cookies lay, a man sat down in the next seat, opened his magazine and started reading.
When she took out her first cookie, the man took one also. She felt irritated, but said nothing. She just thought “What a nerve! If I was in the mood I would punch him for daring!”
For each cookie she took, the man took one too.
This was really starting to infuriate her, but she didn’t want to cause a scene.
When only one cookie remained, she thought “Ah……what will this abusive man do now?” Then the man, taking the last cookie, divided it into half and gave her one of the halves.
Ah! That was too much to bear!
She was much too angry now.
In a huff she took her book, her things and stormed to the boarding area of the airport.
When she sat down in her seat inside the plane, she looked into her bag to take her glasses, and to her surprise (or dismay?) her packet of cookies were there, untouched and unopened!
She felt so ashamed! She realized the error of her ways. She had forgotten that her cookies were in her purse.
The man had divided his cookies with her without feeling angry or bitter
…….while she had been very angry thinking that she was dividing her cookies with him. And now there was no chance to explain herself……..nor to apologise.
Remember, there are 4 things you can never recover:
The stone
…after the throw
The word
….after it is said!
The occasion
….after the loss!
The time
…after it’s gone!
Sunday, June 17, 2007
You Lucky Devil!
I would like to pose the question does luck play a part in business? If it does, is it possible to increase your luck?
How often have we heard entrepreneurs stand up and take complete credit for their success? Is it possible that there is always an element of chance in business, and therefore there is always an element of luck?It could be luck of timing, the luck of someone else’s mistake or a multitude of other so-called coincidences.
Or is luck nothing more than getting a return on all that intangible work you have put in? Perhaps luck is about ensuring that even the smallest stone does not go unturned.
Or perhaps luck is nothing more than a self-fulfilling prophecy? i.e. if you believe you are a lucky person or that you always get lucky breaks, it may well change your behaviour, your level of confidence and your psychology, which in turn may actually make you luckier. Therefore you seize opportunities that may once have appeared too risky. Whereas if you “ feel” unlucky you probably won’t seize the opportunities or pursue things.
I would like to believe it’s the latter; that believing in luck is a self-fulfilling prophecy and is about recognising opportunities when they arise. But it’s very possible I am wrong.
What’s your view on the part luck has played in your success?
Copyright © Vanessa Vinos/Vision Life Coaching-2007.
How often have we heard entrepreneurs stand up and take complete credit for their success? Is it possible that there is always an element of chance in business, and therefore there is always an element of luck?It could be luck of timing, the luck of someone else’s mistake or a multitude of other so-called coincidences.
Or is luck nothing more than getting a return on all that intangible work you have put in? Perhaps luck is about ensuring that even the smallest stone does not go unturned.
Or perhaps luck is nothing more than a self-fulfilling prophecy? i.e. if you believe you are a lucky person or that you always get lucky breaks, it may well change your behaviour, your level of confidence and your psychology, which in turn may actually make you luckier. Therefore you seize opportunities that may once have appeared too risky. Whereas if you “ feel” unlucky you probably won’t seize the opportunities or pursue things.
I would like to believe it’s the latter; that believing in luck is a self-fulfilling prophecy and is about recognising opportunities when they arise. But it’s very possible I am wrong.
What’s your view on the part luck has played in your success?
Copyright © Vanessa Vinos/Vision Life Coaching-2007.
Wednesday, June 6, 2007
Sorry, what did you just say??
One of the fundaments of coaching is being a good listener. It’s certainly not about speaking about all your own achievements and how far you’ve come as a coach . Instead it’s about REALLY listening to what your clients are saying i.e the equivalent of reading between the lines.
Here are some inspiring quotes about listening.
Which of these quotes really resonate with you?
What does one have to do to be a great listener?
“Much silence makes a powerful noise”-African Proverb
“Man who know little say much
Man who know much say little”- Unknown
“Many attempts to communicate are nullified by saying too much”-Robert Greenleaf
“The opposite of talking is not listening. The opposite of talking is waiting”-Fran Lebowitz
“Listen or they tongue will keep thee deaf”-Native American
“There is no such thing as a worthless conversation, provided you know what to listen for. And questions are the breath of life for a conversation”- James Nathan Miller
“It is the province of knowledge to speak. And it is the privilege of wisdom to listen”- Oliver Wendell Holmes
“The first duty of love is to listen”-Paul Tillich
“You cannot truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time”-M.Scott Peck
“Well done is better than well said”-Unknown
“When you are arguing with a fool, make sure he isn’t doing the same thing”-Unknown
“Listening, not imitation, may be the sincerest form of flattery”- Dr Joyce Brothers
“Wisdom is the reward for a lifetime of listening….when you’d have preferred to talk”-D.J.Kaufman
“”The best time to hold your tongue is the time you feel you must say something or bust”- Josh Billings
(Source:http://heartquotes.net/Listening.html)
Here are some inspiring quotes about listening.
Which of these quotes really resonate with you?
What does one have to do to be a great listener?
“Much silence makes a powerful noise”-African Proverb
“Man who know little say much
Man who know much say little”- Unknown
“Many attempts to communicate are nullified by saying too much”-Robert Greenleaf
“The opposite of talking is not listening. The opposite of talking is waiting”-Fran Lebowitz
“Listen or they tongue will keep thee deaf”-Native American
“There is no such thing as a worthless conversation, provided you know what to listen for. And questions are the breath of life for a conversation”- James Nathan Miller
“It is the province of knowledge to speak. And it is the privilege of wisdom to listen”- Oliver Wendell Holmes
“The first duty of love is to listen”-Paul Tillich
“You cannot truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time”-M.Scott Peck
“Well done is better than well said”-Unknown
“When you are arguing with a fool, make sure he isn’t doing the same thing”-Unknown
“Listening, not imitation, may be the sincerest form of flattery”- Dr Joyce Brothers
“Wisdom is the reward for a lifetime of listening….when you’d have preferred to talk”-D.J.Kaufman
“”The best time to hold your tongue is the time you feel you must say something or bust”- Josh Billings
(Source:http://heartquotes.net/Listening.html)
Tuesday, May 22, 2007
What I've learnt so far
As I continue on my journey at the University of Life, there are some things that I have learned that keep coming up; lessons I can’t seem to avoid. Here are some of the things I have learnt so far:
· Stop trying to convince anyone of anything
· The Universe whispers to you first. Then it taps you on the shoulder. If you’re still not listening, it will punch you in the gut and drop you to your knees
· The worst lie you can tell yourself is “I will be happier when……….”
· If you don’t give with a true sense of joy, don’t bother giving
· Logic has it’s limits. People who worship logic all the time tend to suffer in their happiness and relationships
· You’re never as wrong as when you are sure you are right.
· It’s great to have an edge, but if you are too sharp you will cut the people around you.
· It’s not easy being grateful all the time. But it’s when you feel least thankful that you are most in need of what gratitude can give you.
· I’ve learned not to worry about what comes next (a really difficult one for me).
· For me the word “doubt” means don’t. Don’t move. Don’t answer. Don’t rush forward.
Copyright © of Vanessa Vinos/Vision Life Coaching 2007
· Stop trying to convince anyone of anything
· The Universe whispers to you first. Then it taps you on the shoulder. If you’re still not listening, it will punch you in the gut and drop you to your knees
· The worst lie you can tell yourself is “I will be happier when……….”
· If you don’t give with a true sense of joy, don’t bother giving
· Logic has it’s limits. People who worship logic all the time tend to suffer in their happiness and relationships
· You’re never as wrong as when you are sure you are right.
· It’s great to have an edge, but if you are too sharp you will cut the people around you.
· It’s not easy being grateful all the time. But it’s when you feel least thankful that you are most in need of what gratitude can give you.
· I’ve learned not to worry about what comes next (a really difficult one for me).
· For me the word “doubt” means don’t. Don’t move. Don’t answer. Don’t rush forward.
Copyright © of Vanessa Vinos/Vision Life Coaching 2007
Tuesday, May 8, 2007
Are You A Diva?
The true meaning of the word “Diva” means a highly successful female singer. However, nowadays it seems the original meaning of the word has changed, and it now seems to conjure up completely different connotations; that of demanding, spoilt, rich, precocious women (with usually very little related to any kind of talent).
Recently when the famous mezzo-soprano Lorraine Hunt-Lieberson died she was spoken of as going “from triumph to triumph, yet never became a Diva, never lost her sense of purpose, or her sense of humour about herself”.
However, is there any shame in remembering the original meaning and connotations of the word diva; classy,style, glamourous, at the top of her game etc?
I thought that I would never want to be tagged as being a Diva or Prima Donna. That I definitely didn’t want to live 100% of my life centre stage. However there are times when we need to be centre-stage; times when we need to openly speak our mind and champion what we believe. Times when we need to step up to the bar.
Does this mean you are a Diva? If so, is there anything wrong with being a Diva?
For me it’s more important “how” we take centre-stage that matters; how we blow our own trumpets and how we treat those around us.
More than being remembered as a Diva I would prefer to be remembered as perhaps a selfless mentor/teacher, a life-long learner, an honorable partner and a graceful friend.
What about you? Would you like to be remembered as a Diva or in some other way?
Copyright© Vanessa Vinos and Vision Life Coaching.
Recently when the famous mezzo-soprano Lorraine Hunt-Lieberson died she was spoken of as going “from triumph to triumph, yet never became a Diva, never lost her sense of purpose, or her sense of humour about herself”.
However, is there any shame in remembering the original meaning and connotations of the word diva; classy,style, glamourous, at the top of her game etc?
I thought that I would never want to be tagged as being a Diva or Prima Donna. That I definitely didn’t want to live 100% of my life centre stage. However there are times when we need to be centre-stage; times when we need to openly speak our mind and champion what we believe. Times when we need to step up to the bar.
Does this mean you are a Diva? If so, is there anything wrong with being a Diva?
For me it’s more important “how” we take centre-stage that matters; how we blow our own trumpets and how we treat those around us.
More than being remembered as a Diva I would prefer to be remembered as perhaps a selfless mentor/teacher, a life-long learner, an honorable partner and a graceful friend.
What about you? Would you like to be remembered as a Diva or in some other way?
Copyright© Vanessa Vinos and Vision Life Coaching.
Sunday, May 6, 2007
Live and Love Life!!!!!
As we grow up, we learn that even the one person
that wasn’t supposed to ever let you down, probably will.
You will have your heart broken probably more than once,
and it’s harder every time.
You’ll break hearts too,
so remember how it felt when yours was broken.
You’ll fight with your best friend.
You’ll blame a new love for things an old one did.
You’ll cry because time is passing too fast,
and you’ll eventually lose someone you love.
So take too many pictures, laugh too much,
and love like you’ve never been hurt,
because every sixty seconds you spend upset
is a minute of happiness you will never get back.
Don’t be afraid that your life will end,
Be afraid that it will never begin!!!
that wasn’t supposed to ever let you down, probably will.
You will have your heart broken probably more than once,
and it’s harder every time.
You’ll break hearts too,
so remember how it felt when yours was broken.
You’ll fight with your best friend.
You’ll blame a new love for things an old one did.
You’ll cry because time is passing too fast,
and you’ll eventually lose someone you love.
So take too many pictures, laugh too much,
and love like you’ve never been hurt,
because every sixty seconds you spend upset
is a minute of happiness you will never get back.
Don’t be afraid that your life will end,
Be afraid that it will never begin!!!
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