What I've learnt so far

As I continue on my journey at the University of Life, there are some things that I have learned that keep coming up; lessons I can’t seem to avoid. Here are some of the things I have learnt so far:

· Stop trying to convince anyone of anything

· The Universe whispers to you first. Then it taps you on the shoulder. If you’re still not listening, it will punch you in the gut and drop you to your knees

· The worst lie you can tell yourself is “I will be happier when……….”

· If you don’t give with a true sense of joy, don’t bother giving

· Logic has it’s limits. People who worship logic all the time tend to suffer in their happiness and relationships

· You’re never as wrong as when you are sure you are right.

· It’s great to have an edge, but if you are too sharp you will cut the people around you.

· It’s not easy being grateful all the time. But it’s when you feel least thankful that you are most in need of what gratitude can give you.

· I’ve learned not to worry about what comes next (a really difficult one for me).

· For me the word “doubt” means don’t. Don’t move. Don’t answer. Don’t rush forward.






Copyright © of Vanessa Vinos/Vision Life Coaching 2007

Are You A Diva?

The true meaning of the word “Diva” means a highly successful female singer. However, nowadays it seems the original meaning of the word has changed, and it now seems to conjure up completely different connotations; that of demanding, spoilt, rich, precocious women (with usually very little related to any kind of talent).

Recently when the famous mezzo-soprano Lorraine Hunt-Lieberson died she was spoken of as going “from triumph to triumph, yet never became a Diva, never lost her sense of purpose, or her sense of humour about herself”.

However, is there any shame in remembering the original meaning and connotations of the word diva; classy,style, glamourous, at the top of her game etc?

I thought that I would never want to be tagged as being a Diva or Prima Donna. That I definitely didn’t want to live 100% of my life centre stage. However there are times when we need to be centre-stage; times when we need to openly speak our mind and champion what we believe. Times when we need to step up to the bar.

Does this mean you are a Diva? If so, is there anything wrong with being a Diva?

For me it’s more important “how” we take centre-stage that matters; how we blow our own trumpets and how we treat those around us.
More than being remembered as a Diva I would prefer to be remembered as perhaps a selfless mentor/teacher, a life-long learner, an honorable partner and a graceful friend.

What about you? Would you like to be remembered as a Diva or in some other way?




Copyright© Vanessa Vinos and Vision Life Coaching.

Live and Love Life!!!!!

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person
that wasn’t supposed to ever let you down, probably will.

You will have your heart broken probably more than once,
and it’s harder every time.

You’ll break hearts too,
so remember how it felt when yours was broken.

You’ll fight with your best friend.

You’ll blame a new love for things an old one did.

You’ll cry because time is passing too fast,
and you’ll eventually lose someone you love.

So take too many pictures, laugh too much,
and love like you’ve never been hurt,
because every sixty seconds you spend upset
is a minute of happiness you will never get back.

Don’t be afraid that your life will end,
Be afraid that it will never begin!!!